or sisters of gals,
or mothers of gals,
or fathers or brothers or friends of gals.
Today is International Day of The Girl. So, we’re here to celebrate, and drop some truth bombs.
First off, neither of us have it all figured out. We’re still navigating through our 20’s – tripping on our own feet most of the time to be honest. We will never claim to know it all (and that would be zero fun anyways), we simply want to give a big HELLZ YEA for girls, for women, for the sisterhood that connects us all. (+ a shout out to all the passionate and strong men who uplift and support us … we love you big time).
So, from our hearts to yours … we humbly offer our advice / what we wish we would have been told as young women. Take what ya want, leave what ya feel – it’s all g.
Stop stressing. Don't worry if you’re 5 foot 8 in Grade 7, people will catch up. We know it’s terribly painful to slow dance with the boys at dances because they’re directly at your chest area. Slow dance with your gal pals instead – twirl each other around and take over that damn dance floor girl.
Getting your period? We feel like it’s hella cool now … like an invitation into the ultimate womanhood, your own full time access pass to some secret club or something. When you’re at school in the toilets ripping your pad off so slow to make sure no one can hear, or getting your friend to pass you her jacket so you can shield your blood stained pants – just breathe, and remember that we ALL experience some sort of really great memory like this. It’s normal, you have nothing to be ashamed of, and seriously do yourself a favour and don’t use tampons – they are so bad for you baby, get yourself a diva cup.
Surround yourself with women of all ages and all backgrounds. Immerse yourself in the gorgeous groves of diversity. Listen to stories from elders, ask them questions, thank them, then thank them some more. Ask your Mom or your sister who her three favourite women are, and ask if you can all hang. Have a dinner together, go for a walk, share space with one another. Allow your brain and your being to be nourished from women of all walks of life.
Don’t wish your youth away. Adulthood is filled with more responsibilities than you might want, plus you have to call and make your own doctor’s appointments (totally blows, right?). Spend all summer barefoot, sliding into bed each night with flecks of sand still stuck within your hair. Camp in your backyard and stay up way too late. And thank whichever adult it is that makes your appointments (not kidding).
Use your voice. Reminder – you are important. More important to this world than you may realize. Surround yourself with the people who do remind you of this. And speak up a little louder in front of the people who want you to forget it. Your opinions matter. Your feelings matter. Don’t diminish your light, for anyone, ever.
Be nice to one another. For goodness sake, please. However similar or different the girls you’re surrounded with might be – here’s the secret : we truly are all in this together (insert High School Musical song). Simple kindess shown to one another will take you places you can’t even imagine. Use your beautiful gift of empathy to stand beside your fellow girls who need extra love, and you’ll soon realize that lifting one another up is so much better than tearing each other down.
Trust your gut. Your body knows, it always knows. Don’t push away that deep intuitive knowledge you hold. If something or someone doesn’t feel quite right – you have all the rights in the world to say no and excuse yourself from the situation. You’ve got the power baby, don’t forget it.
Do you, girl. Whatever moves mountains within you, follow that force. Find ways to express yourself, and to be creative. Who cares if it’s not ‘common’, or it’s ‘just too weird’, or ‘only for the boys’. Sorry, but we say fuck that. You’ve got everything you will ever need inside of that fiery heart and wicked brain … grace the world with your goodness.
And here’s the ultimate, the secret sauce, the cherry on top of the pie, whatever you want to call it. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST. Always, and in all ways. It is not selfish. It is self empowerment, and it is sweet nectar for the planet. It is the gold seeping from your veins. Your love for self is healing for the whole world – we promise.
Oh, another secret – this post isn’t just for girls and teens. It’s a love letter to anyone who identifies as a female. Who can find some sort of relation to any of these words above. We need these reminders too. Why? Because the young girls and teens of the world are looking to us for guidance, for humour, for love. So stand up and say ‘hey, I’ve been there, I see you, I feel you, here’s my hand and let’s do this together.’
We'll leave you with a note written by an 8 year old girl. She drops some serious wisdom that will move you to celebrate the divine feminine within you, every damn day of your life.
All our love,
(and here to buy you a menstral cup if you need),
Molly + Alice