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RACHEL

RACHEL

about

'I'm a 25 year old mother of an amazing little 1yo boy (Thomas Wolfgang- 'Wolfie'), and wife of 3 years to a really supportive husband. I've just recently gone back to work full time, starting a new job in the industry I'd like to forge a career in. I love life. I love chocolate. I love my family.'


on pregnancy and childbirth 

'I went into pregnancy and the birth with absolutely no expectations. I think I made myself really go with the flow. Usually in life I'm a control freak, a perfectionist, but I was fully aware that you just can't control everything when it comes to these experiences. Being pregnant and subsequently having a baby actually turned me into a more go with the flow type person. 

I think the experience went really well because I had no expectations, so I wasn't stressed that it wouldn't live up to what I was hoping it would be. Pregnancy was uncomfortable, it hurt, it was annoying, but at the same time it was fun, and people seem to worship you when you're pregnant.

Child birth was insane. I went into it (with my husband and mum there) not knowing how long it would take, if I would use the drugs, how I wanted it to go down. But it ended up happening slightly early, and fairly quickly, and in the end I didn't have time to use any drugs. I feel really blessed that I had a really good childbirth. I think it's because I didn't stress or freak out.'


on young motherhood

'It's a bit weird because I only started having one friend who had a baby other than me. None of my other friends are even close to thinking about it. So it started off pretty lonely. One of the best things I did was join a mother's group. They're all at least 5 years older than me, but that doesn't matter. We're all going through the same thing and it's great to have that support. Being a young mum though I think definitely has it's advantages. I'm super active with my baby, and I don't seem to freak out as much about things that go wrong.'


on loneliness 

'After hubby went back to work (after the 2 weeks paternity leave) it got a little lonely. You feel as though you're a cow just there to constantly feed this little ball of squish and poop. It gets easier quickly though. I definitely wouldn't have been ready to go back to work when he was 4 months as some people do. I was really lucky to have about a year off. However I was definitely ready to go back to work when he was around 10 months old. I started to feel lonely and cut off from the adult world. I got used to leaving him with family, so didn't feel chained to him, which I know some mums go through.'


on marriage

'Marriage definitely got harder. As a mum, your thinking shifts to just want to focus everything on your baby. I've learnt though that it's so important to remember to focus on your relationship as well. Yes you have this amazing baby and want to give it all of you, but that baby will grow up and live it's own life. I want a relationship with my husband that will still be strong as our babies leave us. So it definitely got harder, but relationships that are worth it go through tough times, and it's worth it to keep investing, keep the love, care, and support alive.'


on the future 

'I hope to have a couple more children. Not sure when, but I'm sure the timing will be right whenever it is. I do know that I want to be a working mum, which is why I've gone back full time. I have a great mum who worked and raised three great kids, and I'd like my son to see that women can be a boss, and be successful in the workplace, not just at home.'


most rewarding part of motherhood

'Seeing Wolfie learn, seeing him become a real little human.'

most challenging part of motherhood

'Poonami. 3 weeks in. Many tears. The worst.'

 


LYNETTE

LYNETTE

LUX - Part II

LUX - Part II